Part of the reason for this myth – honestly, it’s going to be harsh – is just narcissism. I read the following comment on our page just today.
“You ladies just doll yourself up when you go out and about when you are single and why is that? To garner the attention of a man.”
I’ve heard variations of this dozens of times and I don’t want to hurt the feelings of many men watching this. But the truth is that the vast majority of us do no dress with you in mind at all. When we dress fashionable or wear makeup or choose a cute outfit, it’s a method of artistic expression because we enjoy beauty, because it makes us feel confident, because our friends appreciate it. It has nothing to do with ‘garnering the attention of a man.’
But of course, if men believe that women dress primarily for male attention, then it’s no great leap to assume that anything a woman wears that a man finds attractive, was worn specifically to provoke sexual thoughts in them, and must therefore be immodest.
I understand where Ms. Robinson is coming from: men do have a strong, strong bias to narcissism. It’s different in flavour than the narcissism of a woman, but just as powerful… and somewhat more destructive to society.
But I would like to add that this focus on beauty and attractiveness as nothing more than a way to hook the attention of men also stinks of standard-issue Darwininan reductionism and materialism. As if beauty was never anything more than a sex tool.
(if you look closely, you can probably spot some Freudian filth slinking about as well, in the contemptuous dismissiveness of a woman’s desire for beauty for its own sake. “I don’t care what you say or think! We all know that it’s only really about Getting Some!”
So very, very Establishment.)
There isn’t a lot of love for beauty among Darwinians – despite the evidence.
Fortunately, even in the face of the hatred of the materialists, beauty is making something of a comeback, in being something of worth in and of itself:
Darwin’s theory of sexual selection took another blow this week. “Female beauty may have less to do with attracting the opposite sex than previously thought, at least in the animal world,” researchers at Duke are saying. The assumption that beauty attracts males has “rarely been put to the test.” Did you know that?
Contrary to expectation, the model shows that winning the romantic interest of picky males is not enough to explain how desirable feminine features become widespread — even when better-looking females are more likely to land a good catch.More Collapsed Darwinian Expectations, from Creation Evolution Headlines
I will leave it for others to determine when Christian men catch up with reality, and let (dare i say, encourage?) Christian women to be beautiful: not in some Darwinian-materialist exercise in sex hunting, but as a personal celebration and support for the Divine drive to be beautiful, and to expand beauty across Creation.
A rather different, but still honourable and excellent, manifestation of Dominionism. Feminine dominion, and feminine authority, and feminine power, to reach feminine goals… which are backed by the Lord who made flowers, rainbows, fluffy clouds, and shimmering sunsets.